June 9, 2013

Can a strained Husband-Wife relationship be save by "Registered Agreement of In House Behaviours of Spouses"

This is a real case. Wife and Husband quarrels had reached at peak. Wife could suffer no more. She left matrimonial home.


At parents home, she was about to file multiple cases on husband and his family.


At this point, family of wife sought my advice.


I said file no cases for one month. Let both sides cool. I asked wife to send an SMS to husband inquiring about his health as he was ill. She did send SMS.


Then husband and wife started talking. They both had tons of complaint against each other.


Finally, husband prepared a long draft of agreement. Prescribing various Do's and Don'ts for wife and her parents. It included term that she will not talk with her parents more than once a week. It also included condition that husband will not be responsible if wife commits suicide....


The wife added her own terms about what Husband and his relatives will do and will not do. Once in a year, she will be allowed to go to her parents and husband will pay one way fare. Husband will not beat wife. Husband will not force wife to do home work of their child. Husband will not beat wife if child scores poor in exam etc. etc.,


The question was should Husband and wife sign such an agreement?


If wife was ready to sign, then the husband and wife were willing to give one more chance to their marriage.


I told them that such agreement has no value in eye of law. If suicide or beating happens, the law will take its own course and judge will ignore such agreement.


But if it is satisfies to both parties and their parents, then there is no harm in signing such agreement.


They signed agreement.


Parents counter signed
agreement as witnesses.


The agreement was registered in Registrar office.


Well, they started living together.
Four years have gone by. No complaints. They are living happily.


Haresh Raichura
09/6/13 18:21