Story of "Amar Prem" turned into a sour Court battle within 4 years of marriage after one child.
These happened before my eyes four years ago. However, Wake Up call came today morning at 7:00 am from a police station from father of the Boy.
Four years ago, a boy and a girl fell into love. Love was strong. They decided to marry against will of their parents.
Fine.
Then the boy suffered a bike accident. He lost one leg. Girl still insisted on marrying this boy. This looked like "Amar Prem".
But imagine the shock and misery of girl's parents. The girl and the boy fled from their houses. Got married in a temple. Father put police after boy and his family.
On behalf of boy, I gave notice to Police and to father of girl. Dispute calmed down. Police closed FIR.
Boy and girl now lived happily. Boy got an artificial leg and also secured a job. They lived normal life
Then problem No. 1 arose. The Girl asked to the boy to get separated from his parents. It was done. They separated and then they lived happily.
Then they were blessed with a child. They were happy.
Then Problem No.2 arose.
After the first child was born, small disputes started between boy and girl.
Today morning, I received call that Girl had beaten up the boy for coming late at night. Family of girl came down. The girl had visible injuries. The boy also had visible bleeding injury. Both families were summonned to police station. Girl had given complaint against the boy and his family.
The father of boy called me at 7:00am from police station. I advised boy and his father to apologise to girl and her family and try to close down the dispute. Some compromise writing was done.
Thus, the Amar Prem has gone sour within four years.
My analysis:
1) Girl and Boy who go for love marriage against wishes of family have "Strong Built in Personal Will. Their "Self" is stronger then their "Concern for Others". They refuse to listen to elders and more experienced people. They are generally in Denial mode. They deny to admit or even to see their mistakes.
2) After first child is born, the brain of a woman goes into a number of neurological changes. Cognitive faculties undergo changes. Faulty thinkings appear. Mood swings also take place. It is difficult for husband to understand neuro and biological changes in brain of his wife.
And no one suggests them to visit a psychiatrist. Medicines are now available that can improve thinkings within a week. Most of these problems can be solved by modern science of psychiatrist. Consciousness can be changed. suspisciouBut no one gives them such advice and the small disputes spiral up into a matrimonial dispute leading to prolonged litigation.
3) Moral of this story: Those who are in love relationships, or in similar situations, may reflect on this. The person with whom they are dating now or with whom they have just married, may pass through a psychological change in four years. If problems appear, even if small disputes begin to increase, it is not a bad idea to seek advice of a good psychologist or a psychiatrist. This science has advanced more than what people generally know. Psychiatry is now an amazing science.
Haresh Raichura 3/3/17
