Learning from Alfred Adler: Competition between First Child and Second Child to win more attention of parents
Years ago, I had read a book of psychologist Alfred Adler, titled "Understanding of Human Nature"
The point which appealed me most was about his analysis of competition between children.
When first child is born, he gets sole attention and love of parents. Within two years of his birth, if second child is born, he notices that his importance is now reduced. The sole attention and love of parents he was getting is now shared by second child. Then a competition begins between them to catch more attention and more love of parents.
Usually, second child outsmarts the first child in life also.
The situation is different if gap between two child is more than three years. According to him, then first Child develop feelings as if he is "Protector and Care Taker" of his younger brother. This feeling remains whole life.
Look around you.
When you see an an elder brother and a younger brother where age gap is less than 2 years, you may find that younger brother is smarter than the elder brother.
I found the book very good which treats each individual as an individual.
Haresh Raichura
6/10/13
-Haresh Raichura
